Equal Responsibility

equality self-love self-worth Jan 05, 2022

WARNING! Rant coming your way!

We got an email the other day from my stepdaughter's school about dress code.

Most of it was reasonable, nothing promoting violence, or anything that could be construed as demeaning on the basis of race, gender, sexual orientation, etc.

Got it. Makes sense.

But then this...

"Also, midriff tops and tank tops with oversized armholes or spaghetti straps, short shorts, skirts and skorts, or any clothing that is revealing or disruptive to the learning environment are not appropriate for school wear."

I lost my SHIT when I read that.

So a girl showing her legs or shoulders is disruptive to the learning environment?

To who?

The lesson my daughter and I are to take from this "rule" is that we are to cover up, because boys can't control themselves or their thoughts when some skin is showing.

It is always women who have to make adjustments, change what we are doing in order to protect ourselves or to help keep hornballs at bay...

I think it's high time we start teaching our boys that girls are more than their bodies or their sexuality and it's their responsibility to manage their sexual response in appropriate ways.

Women are intelligent, capable, complex beings and in that one sentence we are reduced to our body parts that may excite someone when that is not our intention.

It took me AGES to be comfortable enough to take this photo.

I hid for most of my life.

Because of unwanted attention from men who thought they had every right to speak about me and my body as if I was an object.

ENOUGH! It's 2021 and our teenagers are still taught that it's the girls' responsibility alone to not be distracting.

It's bullshit. If you're a parent of a boy, I hope you're teaching him better.

I have conversations with my daughter that I wished my mom knew to have with me... that she deserves to be treated with respect every day, no matter the clothes on her body.

It's going to take all of us having one conversation at a time to mend what is broken in our society.

Start today.

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