Are You First on Your Own List?

self-care self-love Nov 10, 2021

Hi. I'm Jackie.

I'm a wife and a mom.

I'm a lot of other things too, but getting engaged at the beginning of a pandemic, having a COVID wedding and home-schooling a teenager I had just met accelerated that identity tenfold.

It was lovely… well, maybe not the home-schooling part… 😉

But somewhere in the process, I lost myself.

The girl I knew.

She had been single for most of her life.

She was fiercely independent, traveled when she wanted, saw friends regularly and had plenty of alone time to soothe her introverted heart.

Yes. I said it. Introvert. I would never have called myself that until there were people around. All. The. Time.

But I'm sure you can relate… the losing yourself part.

When we care about others, we want to take care of them.

To make their lives better.

And we're damn good at that.

It gives us a sense of purpose.

We're well intentioned… until we're falling apart at the seams.

We feel like we're having a mental breakdown and can't pinpoint what has happened.

And then we realize…

We've been tending to everyone else and not ourselves.

Why are we second, or worse, last on our own damn list?

We're more than employees, wives, mothers and daughters.

Who are you, deep within your soul?

I'm a Business Owner. A Friend. A Daughter.

But most of all, I'm a Seeker.

A Seeker of adventure, pleasure, truth and growth.

It should be no surprise that over the last 18 months, my poor Seeker has been scarcely tended to.

I would only fill that cup when I was so depleted that I was dying of thirst.

Today, I commit to doing better for me, for her, every day.

Because without her, I am no one to anyone else.

I sparkle just a little less and truth be told, we're all meant to SHINE! ✨

Bright AF!

What are you going to do for YOURSELF today?

Put yourself first. Without doubt or hesitation.

You and your loved ones will thank you for it.

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