Does Your Partner Need to Make More Money Than You?

dating advice dating with intention Sep 08, 2021

There seems to be this unwritten rule that a woman should find someone who makes more money than her.

The more successful he is, the better. There is an element of comfort, that you likely have similar lifestyles and enjoy more of the same things.

The cynic in me believes it's an outdated notion from the days when women needed a man to provide for her.

Don't get me wrong, I wanted someone equally successful too. But when I got him, I realized that his ambition was always going to be more important than me and our life together.

This relationship taught me about what was most important to me.

I wanted someone who was going to be present, who worked to live, not lived to work. Who was going to prioritize our relationship over his career.

My husband has a very different career and ambition level than me. This also means that I bring more money to the relationship.

And we're both fine with it. Because there are more forms of currency in a relationship than money.

He's a carpenter by trade, so he can remodel our home for just the cost of materials. Having a handyman on call is the best, but it's his presence, love and support that are PRICELESS to me.

So, if you value your partner's time and attention, perhaps it's time to reconsider whether you also need him to make more money than you.

Need some help getting clear on what is most important to you in a partner? I'd love to be your guide.

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