Should a Woman Pay on a First Date?

dating advice dating with intention Jun 30, 2021

To pay or not to pay, that is the question.

I came across a post today from another dating coach suggesting that if a man can't afford a date, then he can't afford a wife.

Sounds pretty shallow to me. And simplifies a rather complex subject.

Since the beginning of time, women have needed to be cared for because we have been oppressed by the men in our lives.

But it's 2021 and women make and have more wealth than any other time in our history.

Yet many women still gage a man's ability to pay as the only way to care for her.

There are many forms of currency in a relationship. Why do you need the man in your life to provide money when you have your own?

Now I'm not suggesting that it's not a nice gesture to for the man to pay on the first few dates, but what is the downside of going halvsies or the woman paying as equally as the man?

In my opinion, it's the SMART thing to do!

You set up your relationship on equal ground from the start.

You're not playing from a deficit.

What compromises have you consciously or unconsciously made because he's taken you out and spent money on you?

More importantly, what value do you place on his other traits?

Is he kind? Does he listen to and understand you? Does he support you and your dreams without question or doubt? Is he vulnerable and open with you in return?

That is fucking PRICELESS!

Are there selfish men out there who are cheapskates, can't pay their bills and would never have made good partners anyway?

Certainly. But you're a smart women and can tell the difference.

Perhaps it's time for women to reconsider how important "success" and "income generating potential" is when looking for a life partner.

There's a hell of a lot more to this life than money and when it comes down to it, love wins every time.

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